Have you ever woken up in the BEST mood EVER?! Literally, everything is going great…your outfit you picked out, the pace you’re moving, the time and even your hair! Then you go to where you need to go whether it be work, school or to run or errand or wherever and someone says or does something either to you or around you and your mood is instantly changed…for the rest of the damn day.
I know, I know, we shouldn’t let others control our moods from day-to-day but my goodness negativity is super contagious. Often times it is hard to block out all that is not good around you. I used to (sometimes I still do) care A LOT what others would say or even what I thought they were thinking about me. I mean so much, that it would be crippling. Often times I wouldn’t do something just because someone would say something negative about it and I would listen to it. Whether it was a stranger or even my family or friends, I would just not do or say something. How ridiculous (now I realize this)!! I am responsible for no one but myself and myself alone. I am the only one responsible for my happiness. Now that takes time and lots and lots of assistance from written and spoken word 🙂
I have learned over the past year that you need to be constantly feeding your mind with positive affirmations. Write them down, say then out loud, write them on your mirror, on a post-it, in a journal, email them to yourself. I like to listen to personal development podcasts daily, in the morning while getting ready for work, on the way to work and on the way home from work. Positive thinking needs constant care and attention. Your mind is always distracted by the outside world and we always succumb to what is around us. WE ARE HUMAN. Positive thinking is much like bathing, it needs to happen daily, from day-to-day. It doesn’t last more than a day. What you feed your mind, you believe. Whether you think you can or think you cannot, you are absolutely correct.
As humans, we have a tendency to blame others for our own unhappiness, it’s very difficult to look inward. Once we push that responsibility off to others, it all goes down hill from there. We start to live in a negative bubble and our every waking moment and every word is flooded with negativity. Have you ever heard the saying “misery loves company”? Now, I’m not saying that every person who says something about someone is unhappy. (I am not off the hook because I am human as well. I know that when I say negative things about people, it’s because I am in a bad place in my head and unhappy, but since discovering the tool of Personal Development, I now know how to reel myself back in and feed my mind with positive thoughts) What I am saying is that there is always a reason WHY people say negative things about others. Whether that reason is fueled by unhappiness or other reasons, there is ALWAYS a reason. You know what I’ve also learned? It’s not my responsibility to figure that reason out, it’s my responsibility to make sure that I am being the best person that I know how to be, regardless of the hoopla around me. I am no longer wasting my time nor effort on trying to figure others out…it ain’t going to happen honey!
We are all unique and were put on this Earth to be OURSELVES and no one else. Only we know how to do just that. People are going to talk, whether you are doing good or bad. So you might as well give them something to talk about!
Reminder—*Be YOU and be the best version of YOU <3.